How to Create Your Reality *


I was working this past weekend with a great group of people in Bellingham.  I was part of a group of practitioners here in Bellingham, Wa and we were seeing first come – first serve clients in a group setting for Matrix Energetics and other Body Work.  It’s something that my friend Janet Kingsley created and it is fun way to give back to the community and have a lot of fun with helping people heal and transform.

My friend Andreas Weinrich at one point asked me what I was doing.  Not about what I was doing with my client but what I was doing with the space.  We were packed.  The place had a consistent flow of clients coming in for sessions.  Like I said it was great fun.  He just looked at me and said “Are you channeling?”

He could feel that something was going on.  What was “causing” this effect; this flow of abundance?

Ultimately I don’t know.  I’m more and more seeing that I might not know any thing.  It’s a bit freeing to not have to justify or judge stuff and instead just play.  For one thing play is fun and for another thing, it works better anyway.

So I was inspired to write about creating realities.  Some things I’ve noticed and been playing with.

What I’m noticing is that being Happy is first.  you could call it joy but it feels more like Happy.  Joy to me felt like some thing some spiritual book might call it.  Not that that really matters; but I call it Happy. I am really really happy!  say that ten times and notice what happens.

So how and why to be Happy first.  For one, it feels better to be happy.  Feeling like crap just doesn’t feel that good.  So there is a decision to “today I’m gonna be Happy”.  or a decision point “I’m always Happy”  Now I know there are things and times when other emotions might be more appropriate.  But I think mostly it’s perfectly ok to be happy; even if money is going funny, or someone has a problem or a friend is having a hard time. I mean, you can’t be miserable enough to help someone else who is miserable.  Misery might love company but it’s still misery.

People like being around people who are happy. It’s infectious.  The people it’s not attractive to, seem to weed themselves our of groups of happy people.  it’s their choice.  You don’t have to be bummed out just because others are bummed out.

So first things first making a decision to be happy is possibly a key to happiness?  hah!

Then having a way to drop into the space.  The gap between the moments.  Having a way to notice what you truly are is a way to notice from the space. If you were to notice what you truly are, what might you experience?  Try that and see what happens.

Adyashanti has a great way of doing this.  His book True Meditation is simple and powerful; highly recommended. Robert Schienfeld has a whole process with his Busting Loose Technology. Matrix Energetics has a way that is very fast.  I think it is because what we truly are are infinite infinitely happy beings; infinitely powerful as well.  We’ve done an amazing job and used a lot of power to make it look like we’re not powerful and infinite.  It’s all part of the game we get to play; our total immersion movie experience of our lives.  So having a way to notice what we truly are is a way to have access to this infinite power.  If you were to notice what you truly are what might that be?

From there having a weak or faint intention is key. Not a hard rigid well thought out intention of what you want. Instead an almost in passing thought, “what would it be like if…” Then letting go and just going with “huh”.  And going on with whatever you’re doing.  A weak intention is key when you’re happy and in the space.  If you’re not happy or not in the space or gap of what you truly are, it takes more work.  But if you are happy and you are in the space; knowing what you truly are; then a weak intention can transform into reality.

From there I learned from a good friend who manifests money quickly and easily no matter what she does.  She told me that when ever anything goes wrong or bad; bad fortune; immediately say “thank you, thank you!” and mean it.  You can’t say it begrudgingly.  It has to be with pure joy; pure happiness and just say and mean “Thank You”.

She also told me to find someone who needs what you’re wanting and find a way to give it to them or help them get it.  Again not begrudgingly but with pure happiness, joy and freedom.  Find people to help and help them!  If your were to help someone get what you’re looking for who might that be and how might you do that?

What you are and what you resonate is what comes back to you.  If you’re happy, joyous and helping people, it all comes back to you.  It seems to be a law of some sort.

Then the idea of Lao Tzu, “do nothing and leave nothing undone” shows up.  I like to call it, “Do The Nothing, Leave The Nothing Undone”.  Meaning,  Use the force; the infinite power of the universe; The Nothing and Leave The Nothing Undone; leave the space, the undifferentiated undifferentiated.  In other words don’t limit it by making it about something or judging it in some way.  Being good with the unknown any thing is possible from that point.  A tiny intention can go Boom by not limiting it with our judgements about how it may show up.

Then notice your heart’s desires.  What brings you great joy?  What has consistently been your thing?  What might it be like to start doing that?

Running, Doing Matrix Energetics, laughing with my friends and hanging out  and having a blast with my family, writing stuff and helping people with sessions; that’s been my heart’s desires.  What are yours?  Lining up with your heart’s desires and doing them is key; What are you here to do?  What have you been dropped into  existence to do?

When you’re happy, noticing from the space of what you truly are, thanking for what you have; all of it; the good the bad and the ugly, helping someone get what you want; resonating with joy, happy, the space, you can do the nothing and leave the nothing undone and line up with your heart’s desires.

You might want to make a list of your intentions.  What is it you truly want? What are your heart’s desires?  And start by being Happy.


let me know how it goes!




Ralph Havens, Physical Therapist

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